Nobody Deserves to Continue to Hurt

Nobody deserves to hurt. You’ve probably seen or heard the phrase before, and there’s no question those four words carry great meaning. For me, though, the phrase grows even more meaningful when you add two more words: Nobody deserves to continue to hurt.

A lot of us carry around physical or mental pain that we’ve accepted as simply part of who we are. Instead of addressing these problems, we take them for granted, make space for them, and live around them. We do what we can to lessen their impact on our daily lives, and we carry on.

But this strategy does nothing to actually alleviate the pain. It simply lets the problem go on until it grows large enough to become a major disruption to our lives.

The Principle in Practice

I lived with depression issues for the better part of a decade, issues big enough to make a mark on my life — but not quite enough to force me to seek change. Like other people with this problem, I avoided social contact and stopped taking pleasure in things. Somewhere in my mind, I was waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Now that I’ve sought help — mostly through cognitive behavioral therapy — I regret all the time I put it off because of money, fear, or disinterest. Of all the things I’d love to go back and fix, addressing this issue before I let it drag me down for so long is near the top of the list, perhaps in the No. 1 spot.

Creating Momentum

My point, of course, is not to browbeat people who choose not to seek help. I’ve been there, and I understand the strength it takes to live like that, as well as the energy it drains. What I’m saying is that there’s always room to make a change. Sometimes, simply addressing a long-standing issue, be it nagging physical pain or an underlying emotional problem, is enough to set the boulder of relief rolling down the hill.

For me, knowing that I was trying to combat the depression that had previously kept me in bed was enough to get me going in the morning. That improvement kept getting better when I got serious and sought professional help.

So don’t assume your problems are unfixable. Some issues can in fact be chronic, but telling yourself that there’s no fixing yours before you seek assistance is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Even if a solution isn’t total or comprehensive, some improvement is better than none.

I’ll say it again: Nobody deserves to continue to hurt. I didn’t believe that about myself for a long time, and I wish every day that I could go back in time and take action earlier.

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